A couple weeks ago, I told a story about how my emotions were sending all kinds of signals that I needed to slow down and take care of myself (see Enemies). When I first started practicing soul-care (self-care), I didn’t know what to do when I felt emotionally drained because I really hadn’t seen it modeled. So, I took to Instagram and learned that some people take very pretty bubble baths with candles and glasses of wine. Thanks to IG, this was my very first soul-care ritual.
I emulated what I saw online, and the experience was just okay. I mean . . . I enjoyed having some down time. The hot water was relaxing. But it was a little boring. I turned on some Frank Sinatra, drank wine and sat in the bubble bath feeling like an impostor. When I realized how I felt, I turned off Frank (no offense) and played some funk, hip-hop, jazz & r&b. Before long, I was having my own little party in the bathroom and LOVING it. Over time I started added podcasts to my bath time. No news. No business. I listened to the funny cultural podcasts that make me crack up all by myself. Over time I figured out that there isn’t a specific way to do soul-care. Taking care of myself doesn’t always mean a spa day. It just means doing the things that fill me with joy and doing them on purpose.
This brings me to my favorite things. The following is a list of my clutch soul-care rituals I do when I need to take care of myself. These automatically help me find my sense of play and remind me just how blessed I am to be alive.
So, here we go:
Here’s that list:
As a parent, I learned that my toddler needs times of play and rest. I intentionally build these times into his schedule because he becomes a different person without them. As a grown woman, the same rules apply. When I become the grumpy or stressed out version of myself, somewhere I violated my own need to play and/or rest. That’s my soul just sending me signals, and I’m learning to stop and handle it.
When I prioritize taking care of myself, my relationships are richer and my work is more fulfilling. I am present, and I am able to give the best of myself to the world. I pray that I will continue to do this work, and I hope my journey inspires you to do the same.
About me . . .
I'm Cyrah Hill. I'm a woman of faith, an actor and an everyday black girl.