I’m going out on a limb here and talking about yet another thing I’m not an expert on… The art of seduction. As a matter of fact, I had NO game when I was growing up. No game and no resources to help me get game.
I was raised in a strict Christian home, and the only conversation we had about sex was, “Don’t do it.” So, I never really explored flirtation or any of that. The expectation was that I would stay focused on my studies in school, build a career and get married when I was old enough. How I was supposed to magically know how to attract someone when I was old enough to get hitched is beyond me, but my point is that I didn’t know how to engage with men without making it purely platonic.
Funny thing… I ended up getting hitched to my best friend before I figured out how to flirt, so I guess my parents have the last laugh there.
However, I did get over my seduction issues in a surprising way. In all the time I’ve been an actor, I’ve been asked to audition for love interest roles. My initial reaction getting these auditions was to laugh! I thought I was the girl you should call in to play the victim or the criminal or the superhero (sensing a pattern here), but I couldn’t see myself playing someone’s girlfriend without being awkward.
One day I decided to boss up and take on the challenge. Clearly, the industry saw something in me that I didn’t see in myself. So, I practiced. I worked on scenes about relationships in acting class for at least a year to try to figure this thing out, and something broke when I worked on a scene from a play called Five Women Wearing the Same Dress by Alan Ball. It’s a great read, so if you ever have the time to read it, please do.
I decided to play the smart, provocative character named Trisha. Everything she believed about herself and love was the opposite of what I believed, which was perfect. I needed to explore a completely different way of doing things in order to break my old habits. While working on this scene, I focused on listening to and internalizing Trisha’s lines instead of trying to memorize them. Over time, I understood her point of view and could say the lines without faking it. I figuratively stepped into her shoes and learned a ton about what it means to have game.
Here’s what I learned:
What are your thoughts? Do you feel like you have game? If so, share some of your tips below.
About me . . .
I'm Cyrah Hill. I'm a woman of faith, an actor and an everyday black girl.